Love Goes Underground

4 years ago with 21 comments in Uncategorized
Dear Readers, Thank you. For your prayers and your words of encouragement. For your always thoughtful, always civil discussion in my comboxes — holy mackerel, who knew “thoughtful,” “civil,” and “comboxes” could go together in the same sentence? To you men and women with SSA — thank you for your courage, and your willingness to follow the light ...

Quick Thoughts on Romance

4 years ago with 72 comments in Uncategorized
I was going to post this as a comment to the last post, but since this is MY BLOG and my thoughts are THE MOST IMPORTANT so I get CENTER STAGE and also I am THE SMARTEST, I am going to make a WHOLE POST out of it. So. A few have noted that it’s possible for a man with SSA to have deep relationships with other men without these being sinful. I definitely agree. I think such friendships ...

North Star

4 years ago with 83 comments in Uncategorized
Last night I received this comment on an old post. Read it, friends, and weep. God loves you fully for who you are – your sexuality is an expression of the love in your soul and heart and God does not require that you repress it unless you really want that (i.e. as a monk)…brother you are trying to be accepted by the church but the true acceptance comes from God – the church’s reasons ...

Radio Interview #3

4 years ago with 7 comments in Uncategorized
So, I’m not going to lie, I like being on the radio, but I think I am starting to get a fat head. I just finished recording a short-notice interview with Cy Kellett of Catholic Radio of San Diego. You can listen live on the web tomorrow — that’s Wednesday, Dec. 14 — at 6pm PST (9pm for east-coasters), by going to and clicking on the ...

Podcast Up

4 years ago with 1 comment in Uncategorized
Roxane was kind enough to point out that the podcast of our interview is up. To listen, go to and look on the left sidebar — it’s currently at number 42,1 though that number may change in the future. Thanks, Roxane! 1 Coincidence!?


4 years ago with 14 comments in Uncategorized
I’ve never had much Marian devotion. Maybe it’s some lingering sola scriptura sentiment from my parents’ Evangelical days, maybe it’s the way the family Rosary always turned into an aggravation-fest — we’ve always loved each other in my family, but we haven’t always been good at being in the same room — or maybe I just don’t like women ...

Cowards Being Cowardly

4 years ago with 11 comments in Uncategorized
I seem to have pissed off someone in…the gay hacker community? Just a guess. My system logs are showing some suspicious activity, so somebody is trying to get in. All I have to say is, don’t hack a hacker, bubbeleh. How ’bout you just shoot me an email and we argue like men.

Desiring Desire

4 years ago with 16 comments in Uncategorized
“I was not in love as yet, but I was in love with love; and, from a hidden hunger, I hated myself for not feeling more intensely a sense of hunger. I was looking for something to love, for I was in love with loving, and I hated security and a smooth way, free from snares.”1 Not in love, but in love with loving! Not desiring, but desiring to desire! People are not simple.2 ...

Seven Quick Takes, vol. 2: Buffalo Girl

4 years ago with 18 comments in Uncategorized
1: Deep Horse Kung Fu! It’s one of the best things that’s ever happened to me. Every class day, I don’t want to go. I’m tired, or lazy, or scared. I go anyway, and the blessings just pour out. There’s the very natural blessing that comes from moving your muscles — you know, endorphins or something. But there’s everything else, too. The feeling of ...