Fragment: One Reason it makes sense…
Aug 18, 2013
…to publicly disclose your homosexuality, if that is what you want to do:
If you ask me to live a life where, in casual conversation with friends, I never make reference to anything that has to do with my sexuality, then you’re asking me to live a life that is very much different from the lives of 99% of the population.
Which is to say, most people don’t talk about their sexuality nonstop, and if they do, there’s something wrong with them. But most people don’t have to take GREAT CARE to NEVER mention anything that has to do with their sexuality — and if they do, there’s something wrong. Not necessarily something wrong with them, but maybe something wrong with the society who made them feel that they had to live that way.
Straight people don’t keep discussions of their sexuality between them and their therapists and spiritual directors, because their sexuality is not shameful. So I shouldn’t have to, either, because mine isn’t, either.
So, to the (relatively very small contingent of) people who are put off by my public declaration: given the fact that gay people already have to live lives that are different from the vast majority of the population, do you really want to burden us further by stipulating that we never ever mention those bits of our lives that are different?
So, no, I don’t plan to talk about this all the time. I just love (O how I love!) being able to do so, if I feel like it, without it being a Big Thing, and without it requiring mounds of explanation first.