Celibacy and Silence

2 years ago with 5 comments in Uncategorized
There are a lot of very screwed up gay Catholics out there. By “screwed up” I mean isolated, neurotic, guilt-ridden, anxious, depressed, tormented, narcissistic, and self-pitying. It’s impossible to say whether this is the effect of a regime of imposed celibacy. Because what we’re seeing is not just a generation of people who have grown up under a regime of imposed ...
Quick Takes, Vol. 8

Quick Takes, Vol. 8

2 years ago with 21 comments in Uncategorized
Clean Of Heart I’m on day 30 of Clean Of Heart, which is cool. Father T. is my official accountability partner, but as I’m not willing to ask him to give me time every single day to talk about the silly, petty mechanics of my lust, even though he’d never put it that way; and, knowing what a thorough and generous shepherd he is to his flock, I doubt he’d have time ...

Happy 100, Gabriel Blanchard!

2 years ago with 19 comments in Uncategorized
I’m working on a real post or several, but in the meantime, I am going to piggyback off of Mudblood Catholic’s 100th post. What a post. Here are the bits that made me nod and grin the hardest. [Indented bits are him, other bits are me.] ★ The trouble about discussing sexuality — and this is not peculiar to gay sexuality — is that it involves you in nearly ...

Questions From Arleen Spenceley

2 years ago with 16 comments in Uncategorized
Arleen Spenceley, who to judge by her writing appears to be some sort of human Catholic firecracker, is working on a book about love, chastity, and sex. She gave me a mini-email-interview to get a few words from my particular quadrant of that universe, and has agreed to let me stick ’em here, because that way I get an extra post practically for free, and so do you! I wrote this fast, ...

Seven Quick Takes, Vol. 5: Polarities

2 years ago with 18 comments in Uncategorized
1: Lovers Gonna Love I’m still recovering from the overflowing love and support I got in the comboxes, and on facebook, and by text message, and via twitter. I’m delighted, but not surprised, to find out that all the people in my life who I suspected of being kind and compassionate and generous really are that way. Thank you all so much. More than one of your messages brought ...

What Do They Teach Them In Schools These Days?

3 years ago with 15 comments in Uncategorized
Interesting article at First Things about how celibacy, even though not voluntarily chosen, can be a vocation. The author quotes from Pius XII: [But] this vocation, this call of love, makes itself felt in very diverse ways . . . The young Christian woman who remains unmarried in spite of her own desires may—if she firmly believes in the providence of the heavenly Father—recognize in life’s ...

Embracing Celibacy

4 years ago with 71 comments in Uncategorized
Hey, this is a neat post from the Marriage Matters blog: I don’t mean that [priests] simply acquiesce to celibacy, but they embrace it with their whole heart. I am not simply referring to men who think to themselves, “Golly, marriage would be good. Women are beautiful. Sex sounds nice. But, oh well.” I’m speaking of men who have stared into the eyes of a woman with the passionate desire to ...

What Did You Expect?

4 years ago with 39 comments in Uncategorized
One of the dangers of a life like mine — being single, living alone, working a job that mainly involves staring at glowing rectangles all day — is that your faults tend to get hidden from you. When I was a teacher, It was impossible to avoid my faults: how little it takes to make me lose patience, how I have it in me to be casually cruel even to a sixth-grader if I’m short ...

It’s Not You, It’s My !@#$ Celibacy

4 years ago with 26 comments in Uncategorized
I tried for over an hour to write this post about what happened today at the gym. It was about how, even though I found out my gym buddy Eddy is gay, and found this out by him hitting on me, and had to tell him that yes, I’m (1) gay, but also (2) Catholic and therefore (3) celibate, I feel nothing but good and satisfied and proud of myself. Well, I do feel good and satisfied and proud ...

Marriage Good, Virginity Better

5 years ago with 5 comments in Uncategorized
Yes, maybe. Anyway that is the point pondered in Mark Shea’s recent and sort of Chestertonian post over at NCR. Excerpt: The Church recognizes that sex is a sign, not the reality. It is sacramental, but it is never proposed as the sacrament of the altar…That’s not because sex is impure. It’s because sex is a raging fire that will burn out of control once you remove it from ...