The BFDZ

2 years ago with 11 comments in Uncategorized
So I went on a little depression-bender the other night. “Bender”, hah, it’s fun to call it that, like it’s something I did because I’m wild and unpredictable and because consequences shmonsequences! A bender is something that is, at least in theory, enjoyable in the moment, but you pay for it later. My depression-bender wasn’t like that. I did pay for it ...

Wednesday Tweet Digest, Vol. 4

2 years ago with 4 comments in Uncategorized
The best (according to me) tweets I have twitted over the course of the previous week or so, as a momentary stay against the essential evanescence of twitter. What can separate us from the love of Christ? Neither counterintuitive syncopations, nor insipid melodies, nor unnecessary key changes… — Joseph Prever (@stevegershom) August 3, 2014 Where do sinners go if they don’t believe ...

Stalactites

2 years ago with 11 comments in Uncategorized
Dear Readers, I’m just writing to say hi. I hope you’re well. Sorry it’s been a while. I don’t have any grand themes to expound upon, so maybe writing this post like a letter makes the most sense. I just got back from an extended weekend trip with my Kung Fu school, who I keep referring to as my “Kung Fu family”, because that is how I keep feeling about ...

Thanks

2 years ago with 23 comments in Uncategorized
I heard a nice idea from my sister: every time something happens that you’re really thankful for, you write it on a piece of paper and put it in a jar. Then, at the end of the year, you read the pieces of paper, to remember all the good things. I think I missed some big ones — I guess I forgot to keep putting stuff in the jar — and some of the things are on a whole nother ...

Seven Quick Takes, Vol. 6: Fill ‘Er Up

3 years ago with 7 comments in Uncategorized
1 – Long Dark Tea Time It’s been a long time since I was depressed, and that’s amazing. The odd thing is how not-sad is not exactly the same as happy. When I was habitually miserable, I always figured that being free from the constant oppressive darkness was all I could ever ask for. Turns out, nope, my appetite for bliss is infinite, just like CSL said (somewhere ...

How To Screw Without Stripping

3 years ago with 20 comments in Uncategorized
I own a punching bag full of women’s clothing. If I ever told that to my therapist, she’d probably get that hungry look. But there’s nothing symbolic about it, I swear. The guy who used to own the bag, a schoolmate of mine in college, went to the basement of the girls’ dorm at the end of the semester, collected everything from the box of castoffs, and stuffed it all ...

Kung Fu, Part II: Kwoon, Sweet Kwoon

3 years ago with 2 comments in Uncategorized
Last post, a reader wondered whether it was okay to do martial arts for the wrong reasons, and imagined that “BECAUSE IT’S AWESOME” might be a wrong reason. I tried to set him straight. Today we take on this part: I always favor amiableness over confrontation, to a fault…And while I’ll readily admit that I could stand to toughen up some, I also see a lot of good ...

Spiritual Windowshoppers

3 years ago with 2 comments in Uncategorized
This is a poem by Rumi. I was going to stick it in the comments of my last post, in reply to Alex, who says “so many martial arts options, so hard to choose.” But it’s wonderful, so here it is for everybody. Spiritual Windowshoppers These spiritual windowshoppers, who idly ask, “How much is that?” Oh, I’m just looking. They handle a hundred items and put ...

Kung Fu, Part I: Neo, Aang, and You

3 years ago with 12 comments in Uncategorized
A reader writes:1 I’ve always had a love/hate perspective on martial arts. On the one hand, it’s so cooool! And I’m really into Avatar (the cartoon), which sort of shows some very different real-life fighting styles, and it’s all very interesting. And…I think it could only be a good thing to be capable of defending myself and others if need be. And anything that ...

Seven Quick Takes, Vol. 5: Polarities

3 years ago with 18 comments in Uncategorized
1: Lovers Gonna Love I’m still recovering from the overflowing love and support I got in the comboxes, and on facebook, and by text message, and via twitter. I’m delighted, but not surprised, to find out that all the people in my life who I suspected of being kind and compassionate and generous really are that way. Thank you all so much. More than one of your messages brought ...