The Business of Being Human (UD Talk, Part 2)

The Business of Being Human (UD Talk, Part 2)

1 year ago with 3 comments in Uncategorized
This is the second of three parts of a talk given at the University of Dallas on October 19th, 2015. Photographs gratefully used with permission from Elizabeth Kerin. ★ Remember the definition was “predominantly and persistently attracted to members of my own sex”. So what about that “predominantly”? That’s simple enough. I do actually experience some attraction ...

My One Essential Piece Of Advice…

3 years ago with 8 comments in Uncategorized
…for parents of gay kids: For your son to go through life thinking of himself as Different and Damaged would be much, much worse than for him to go through life just thinking dudes are hot. So, you know. Keep that in mind while you figure out what to do and what to say.

Seek Ye First

3 years ago with 8 comments in Uncategorized
I’ve been reading Gabriel Blanchard’s stuff over at Mudblood Catholic, a site of which I’m newly and extremely fond. I don’t agree (I don’t think) with Gabriel on all points, but I love his clarity of thought, his humor, and his honesty. Given the whole Exodus thing, orientation change has been the obsession du jour in the Gershom headspace. It’s a subject ...

Nearly Anything

4 years ago with 17 comments in Uncategorized
My friend B. is a body psychotherapist. She’s explained what this means more than once, but I never quite get a handle on it.1 I gather that, where traditional psychotherapy is focused on talking, body psychotherapy treats us as the soul-body composite we are. One of the tenets of the discipline is that past trauma can manifest itself, not only in our thought patterns, but in our ...

What Is Queer?

5 years ago with 33 comments in Uncategorized
Br. Gabriel, OP asks in the comments: I want to ask a really, really, controversial question. Your post made me think about it because you didn’t say anything about it explicitly but I felt it might be lurking in the background. The question is about the inner fear of not doing everything to “fix this” issue. What if part of the fear of and ostracism of reparative therapy is that it partially ...

If It Ain’t Baroque

5 years ago with 37 comments in Uncategorized
A reader recently asked what I think of reparative therapy — therapy aimed specifically at getting the gay out, so to speak. I’m not too sure. I’m not a fan of the name, first of all. All therapy is reparative therapy, ‘cuz we’re all broken,1 so calling this kind reparative therapy is a little like saying: Yeah, but you’re a mess! You like dudes! ...