Lifted from a comment that appeared recently on “Light of Hope”:
I think it is really strange to create this boundary – that the “best” a gay Catholic can get is not-masturbating…
I think Catholicism teaches us to recognise the variety of goods that exist outside of the limited range of what is the best and truest (and unattainable).
I am confused that if orgasms occur “naturally” as part of our existence that wanting them, or producing them is not-right.
I’ll respond here. That’s whatcha get for commenting in a public forum, buddy! From the rooftops, then:
Oh, I think that’s a strange idea, too. The “best” a gay Catholic can get isn’t to be masturbation-free. The best he can get is to grow in holiness and maturity until he becomes a beacon of God’s love to everyone around him. Of course, that applies to everyone, not just gays.
Re: “unattainable”: “Be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect.” Not all at once, true, but the Church sets high standards for us, and is patient with us while we walk (or crawl) towards them. I’m glad she doesn’t say to us: “Well, that’s all right. I know celibacy is unattainable. Just do the best you can — I know you’re not grown-up enough for the real thing.”
Re: orgasm etc. — every pleasure is good. And every pleasure is meant for a particular context. It’s possible, of course, to get the pleasure without the proper context, but it’s a kind of stealing. Wanting something, even wanting it very badly, doesn’t make it right.
Re: “natural” — but all sorts of things are “natural,” aren’t they? In a sense, it’s “natural” for me to hate my neighbor, and profoundly unnatural to love him. (Especially before I’ve had my coffee.) You are a Catholic; you’ve heard of concupiscence.