Hang Together

Hang Together

1 year ago with 70 comments in Uncategorized
Somebody asked me the other day why Adoration is the one thing I can hold on to. Context for the question: I’m a hot mess. Without going into specifics, celibacy1 has not been exactly my forte lately. There was a guy,2 and now there isn’t. And although in some ways it ended extremely well, and although a decade and a half of now done darkness3 taught me how to keep a pretty even ...
The Business of Being Human (UD Talk, Part I)

The Business of Being Human (UD Talk, Part I)

2 years ago with no comments in Uncategorized
This is the first of three parts of a talk given at the University of Dallas on October 19th, 2015. Photographs gratefully used with permission from Elizabeth Kerin. ★ I want to start by giving you some background. It’s easy to forget to do this, because it’s easy to forget that I’ve been thinking about this question since I was fourteen, which is eighteen years ago, and ...

Celibacy and Silence

4 years ago with 5 comments in Uncategorized
There are a lot of very screwed up gay Catholics out there. By “screwed up” I mean isolated, neurotic, guilt-ridden, anxious, depressed, tormented, narcissistic, and self-pitying. It’s impossible to say whether this is the effect of a regime of imposed celibacy. Because what we’re seeing is not just a generation of people who have grown up under a regime of imposed ...