National Coming Out Day 2016

1 year ago with 19 comments in Uncategorized
Happy National Coming Out Day. Since I came out as gay in 2013, my life has gotten more complicated in some ways and less complicated in other ways. It’s more complicated because I have to take being gay seriously as a part of myself. I don’t have the freedom anymore to say that it isn’t that important, that it’s always something manageable, that it doesn’t touch ...

Interview: Homosexuality, Suffering, and Coming Out

2 years ago with 6 comments in Uncategorized
John Paul Shimek of Catholic World Report interviewed me after the recent Courage conference. An excerpt: CWR: Some people seem to want the issue of homosexuality to go away. A good gay Catholic is a closeted gay Catholic, according to them. How can we welcome and accompany those people? What have you learned about how to deal with those people? Prever: With questions like this, I always try ...

Four Short Graybles For My One-Year Outiversary As a Fancy Man

3 years ago with 10 comments in Uncategorized
One year, almost. On August 9, 2013, my WORLD CHANGED FOREVER when I invoked the patronage of Daffy Duck and Edith Stein, in that order, and wrote a post telling the whole world that I [mostly] fancy men, and am therefore, arguably, myself a Fancy Man, which why isn’t that a euphemism yet? (“Did you ever wonder if Joe was a little…you know, Fancy?” “What, you ...

Redlining, Part II of V: I Can Deal With That

4 years ago with 9 comments in Uncategorized
I am trying to answer the question of whether a man can fall in love with another man. Last time, I talked about when I did, in fact, fall in love with S.; which might or might not mean that the answer is exactly “yes”. On to the next part of the story. ★ Ryan had just invited me to spend the weekend at the beach house his family had rented, which was perfect, because I had just ...

Catholic Sexuality

4 years ago with 6 comments in Uncategorized
A few weeks ago I headed down to Darkest Jersey to help record a series of video interviews and conversations for catholicsexuality.com‘s section on homosexuality. So I found myself in the august company of Eve Tushnet, Gabriel Blanchard, Joshua Gonnerman, Melinda Selmys, and Ron Belgau. It was fun! And a little exhausting, because we filmed for like eight hours. Anyway, it turns out ...

Thanks

4 years ago with 23 comments in Uncategorized
I heard a nice idea from my sister: every time something happens that you’re really thankful for, you write it on a piece of paper and put it in a jar. Then, at the end of the year, you read the pieces of paper, to remember all the good things. I think I missed some big ones — I guess I forgot to keep putting stuff in the jar — and some of the things are on a whole nother ...

Ain’t No Thing

4 years ago with 10 comments in Uncategorized
Happy National Coming Out Day! I guess that’s a thing. Apropos of that, Boy, it’s a good thing having an awkward moment at a get-together doesn’t send me into a spiral of self-loathing and despair anymore. No joke, that used to happen. I’d flub a handshake1 or tell an unfunny joke or be the wrong kind of geeky when everybody else was being the right kind of cool, and ...