The Seven Legitimate Needs

5 years ago with 10 comments
I sin sometimes, but I’m not really a sinner. It’s true that I eat a lot — but eating a lot is not who I am. I don’t really consider food that important, honestly. My therapist says I have an oral fixation, so it’s not like I’m just eating for gratification. Anyway, I know spiritual things matter way more than food, and I’m prety good about spiritual ...

Locker Room, Part I: Charge

6 years ago with 10 comments
An earnest gay reader1 wonders how to comport himself at the gym: My first instinct is to say, “Okay, simple. It’s an occasion of sin for you, so even if you’re okay in the locker room, forget the shower or sauna, or even the pool sometimes. Even if that means you have to drive home all sweaty and stink up your car.” But then — motivated probably by equal parts ...

Response, Part I

7 years ago with 37 comments
I just received a beautiful comment from someone who goes by the handle anakinmcfly — see, already I like this person1 — who wrote to tell me that it’s possible to be gay and Christian. I’ve had comments like this before, but this one stood out because it showed respect where others had shown condescension, and true concern where others had shown self-righteousness. So ...