Constipation Theory

Constipation Theory

1 month ago with 9 comments
When Father T used to discourage me from coming out, he used to say that he didn’t want me to be “pigeonholed” — by which I think he meant that, once people knew I was attracted to men, they’d just think of me as That Gay Guy, and the Gay part would get in the way of them knowing me. But of course what really got in the way of people knowing me was the fact that I had to ...

Strange Gate

5 years ago with 8 comments
I don’t like disagreeing with people. I tend to do it badly. Either I’m silent when I should be vocal, which makes people assume I agree with them when I don’t, or I rip somebody’s head off about something that doesn’t matter at all, like the other night when I badly hurt a dear friend’s feelings during what was supposed to be a lighthearted argument about ...

Seek Ye First

6 years ago with 8 comments
I’ve been reading Gabriel Blanchard’s stuff over at Mudblood Catholic, a site of which I’m newly and extremely fond. I don’t agree (I don’t think) with Gabriel on all points, but I love his clarity of thought, his humor, and his honesty. Given the whole Exodus thing, orientation change has been the obsession du jour in the Gershom headspace. It’s a subject ...

Exodus Part 3: Journey Into Manhood

6 years ago with 4 comments
This is Part 3 of a four-part post. The final part will be posted tomorrow. ★ What does all this mean for Exodus, and the “ex-gay” movement in general? My own experience with the movement indicates that, like any movement,1 it contains some good and some bad. The Journey Into Manhood weekend is a perfect example. Some things about it were useless or hokey, and some things ...

Exodus Part 1: Sex and Sexuality

6 years ago with 5 comments
I haven’t had any time to write a short piece on the Exodus kerfuffle, so I will have to settle for a long one. I’m honestly sorry, because I’m from the Strunk & White school of writing: the fewer words, the bigger the punch. But there’s just too much here I’ve been wanting to say. ★ The fact that Exodus is closing its doors doesn’t affect me ...