Dancing With Myself: A Dialogue On Gender & Sexuality, Part I

3 years ago with 9 comments in Uncategorized
Joseph Prever and Steve Gershom run into each other at the coffee shop. After they get over their initial surprise at seeing each other in the same place at the same time, and after they are done complimenting each others’ rugged good looks (but before it gets weird), they have a discussion about, what else, gender and sexuality. Joseph, apparently in a cantankerous mood, begins with a ...

Redlining, Part V of V: Concave and Convex

3 years ago with 16 comments in Uncategorized
Just because a thing can’t be, doesn’t mean it’s not good. Let me clarify. Imagine this. Boy meets girl: call them Dick and Sandra. Dick falls in love with Sandra. Dick marries Sandra. Now Dick and Sandra both get ten years older. They are no longer as young as they were, and no longer as changeable. The selves they have by this time become, are more or less the selves that ...

What Is Sex, Part I: Secret Sauce

4 years ago with 16 comments in Uncategorized
“The male you could have escaped, for it exists only on the biological level. But the masculine none of us can escape. What is above and beyond all things is so masculine that we are all feminine in relation to it. You had better agree with your adversary quickly.” “You mean I shall have to become a Christian?” said Jane. “It looks like it,” said the ...

Exodus Part 2: Overhaul

4 years ago with 11 comments in Uncategorized
The first part of this post is here. The final part will be published tomorrow. ★ I’m not a Freudian, so I don’t believe that every human interaction is secretly about sex. But a straight man, being straight, treats women differently from how he treats men. He instinctually reacts to women in one way, and to men in another. And a gay man reacts to both men and women ...

Wrong

6 years ago with 16 comments in Uncategorized
When I was ten or eleven, I somehow1 came across a letter to my mother, written by a psychologist, I think Joseph Nicolosi — anyway if not him, somebody else in the field. She was worried about me and had found his name, and he’d been gracious enough to reply with advice: try to get him to socialize with other boys; guide him gently into activity with them. Then there was ...

Men and Mountains, Part I

6 years ago with 20 comments in Uncategorized
Following my strange little wee-hours rant on apes and desire last night, reader Jamie added a quotation from C. S. Lewis, which of course is where I got the idea in the first place — thanks, Jamie: If you find in yourself a desire which no earthly thing can satisfy, the logical conclusion must be that you are made for another world. That other world—heaven—echoes in you. And reader ...