Redlining, Part IV of V: Oak and Orchid

5 years ago with 11 comments
So okay, let’s say my and Ryan’s friendship is like that: let’s say it’s made of steel underneath, and the other bits have just got to fall away. What about the eros — does that fall away, too? Even if the answer is “no”, I’ll take it. What’s the alternative? Drop him because the friendship isn’t worth the price? I complained to ...

Redlining, Part III of V: Cold Morning

5 years ago with 12 comments
“It wasn’t that I thought you would freak out.” I’ve just, unthinkably!, told Ryan G. that I’m attracted to him, and now I am explaining why I didn’t tell him before. “I just thought you might start to…I don’t know…” “Keep my distance?” Ryan says it with a grimace, like it is the stupidest idea in the world. Not ...

Texarkana

5 years ago with 8 comments
On the Amtrak platform in Texarkana, a stout woman with a marine haircut and a nose stud is saying goodbye to a willowy, exotic woman with olive skin and long, straight black hair. I can’t hear what they’re saying, but the short-haired woman’s face is suffused with tenderness, or with the desire for tenderness, or maybe just pleading. The long-haired woman’s face says ...

Locker Room, Part I: Charge

6 years ago with 10 comments
An earnest gay reader1 wonders how to comport himself at the gym: My first instinct is to say, “Okay, simple. It’s an occasion of sin for you, so even if you’re okay in the locker room, forget the shower or sauna, or even the pool sometimes. Even if that means you have to drive home all sweaty and stink up your car.” But then — motivated probably by equal parts ...

Exodus Part 3: Journey Into Manhood

6 years ago with 4 comments
This is Part 3 of a four-part post. The final part will be posted tomorrow. ★ What does all this mean for Exodus, and the “ex-gay” movement in general? My own experience with the movement indicates that, like any movement,1 it contains some good and some bad. The Journey Into Manhood weekend is a perfect example. Some things about it were useless or hokey, and some things ...