Wednesday Tweet Digest, Vol. 10

3 years ago with 2 comments in Uncategorized
The best (according to me) tweets I have twitted over the course of the previous week or so, as a momentary stay against the essential evanescence of twitter. I just did a quick Alt + Tab so the random cafe passerby would see that I was actually writing, and definitely not on facebook at all. — Joseph Prever (@stevegershom) September 12, 2014 The safest thing is to limit yourself to ...

Quick Thoughts on Augustine

3 years ago with 10 comments in Uncategorized
I’m reading Augustine’s Confessions again. He is terribly hard on himself for things that most of us would dismiss without a second thought: we’d say either “Oh, that wasn’t so bad,” or “You didn’t know any better,” or “You were just trying to test your boundaries,” or “You were still finding yourself,” or ...

Wednesday Tweet Digest, Vol. 3

3 years ago with 2 comments in Uncategorized
The best (according to me) tweets I have twitted over the course of the previous week or so, as a momentary stay against the essential evanescence of twitter. My phone buzzes and says “4:30 – Meds”. I chuckle at it condescendingly before pushing “dismiss” — Joseph Prever (@stevegershom) July 26, 2014 It’s that critical moment where if I don’t make ...

My One Essential Piece Of Advice…

4 years ago with 8 comments in Uncategorized
…for parents of gay kids: For your son to go through life thinking of himself as Different and Damaged would be much, much worse than for him to go through life just thinking dudes are hot. So, you know. Keep that in mind while you figure out what to do and what to say.

A History of Tears

5 years ago with 14 comments in Uncategorized
“Oh, stop crying already.” It’s twenty years ago, but I remember the exact tone of my father’s voice, equal parts impatience and disgust. To me, crying is something that happens, not something I can decide to do or not do, so his command makes me burn with all the anger of which a nine-year-old is capable, which is a frightening amount. But there’s nobody I can ...

Wrong

6 years ago with 16 comments in Uncategorized
When I was ten or eleven, I somehow1 came across a letter to my mother, written by a psychologist, I think Joseph Nicolosi — anyway if not him, somebody else in the field. She was worried about me and had found his name, and he’d been gracious enough to reply with advice: try to get him to socialize with other boys; guide him gently into activity with them. Then there was ...

The M Word

6 years ago with 40 comments in Uncategorized
It’s not pretty, folks, but you knew it was going to show up here sooner or later, right? I’m talking about — I really don’t like the word — the big M, solitary vice, M-A-S-T-U-R-B-A-T-I-O-N. Whew, that wasn’t so hard! Back when I was a wee lad, I glommed onto the fact that you didn’t have to say the word itself in confession. You just say “an ...