Locker Room, Part II: Lizard Brain

4 years ago with 8 comments in Uncategorized
My reader continues: One of the things I’ve heard, and come to believe myself…is that that feeling of brotherly masculinity, of being a guy among guys without looking at them or thinking of them in terms of excitement or sexual gratification, only comes with actually throwing yourself into their midst and being around them…When I think like this, it sure sounds reasonable to ...

Locker Room, Part I: Charge

4 years ago with 10 comments in Uncategorized
An earnest gay reader1 wonders how to comport himself at the gym: My first instinct is to say, “Okay, simple. It’s an occasion of sin for you, so even if you’re okay in the locker room, forget the shower or sauna, or even the pool sometimes. Even if that means you have to drive home all sweaty and stink up your car.” But then — motivated probably by equal parts ...

The Dark Plant

5 years ago with 20 comments in Uncategorized
Imagine somebody trying to overcome a habit of gluttony who spends his free time watching cooking shows, and who, every time he passes a bakery, stops to breathe the smells in deeply for a full minute. It’s not going to work. The temptation to overeat doesn’t occur in isolation: it’s a symptom of a broader mindset. We notice the overeating because it’s obvious, and ...

He Who Would Save His Life

5 years ago with 27 comments in Uncategorized
Question: What do depression and lust have in common? Quick answer: everything. But wait, lust is fun, and depression isn’t! Lust is when there’s something you want to think about but shouldn’t, and depression is when there’s something you don’t want to think about but can’t help it. Right? Sort of. I remember being sixteen1 and wondering, already for the ...

Antimirage

6 years ago with 16 comments in Uncategorized
Can you guess the reason that I’ve got a keyboard gathering dust in my parents’ attic, a drum set doing the same in their spare room, a fiddle languishing in my closet, and a duduk slowly drying in my dresser? I’ll give you a hint — it’s the same reason I can read the Cyrillic alphabet but can’t speak a word of Russian, can pronounce German passably but ...

Light of Hope

6 years ago with 31 comments in Uncategorized
“It is funny how mortals always picture us as putting things into their minds: in reality our best work is done by keeping things out.”1 To be a Christian is to know that the phrase “too good to be true” is nonsense. A thing is true insofar as it is good, and good insofar as it is true. The best thing imaginable is the truest thing imaginable. But the imagination is ...