Locker Room, Part II: Lizard Brain

6 years ago with 8 comments
My reader continues: One of the things I’ve heard, and come to believe myself…is that that feeling of brotherly masculinity, of being a guy among guys without looking at them or thinking of them in terms of excitement or sexual gratification, only comes with actually throwing yourself into their midst and being around them…When I think like this, it sure sounds reasonable to ...

Locker Room, Part I: Charge

6 years ago with 10 comments
An earnest gay reader1 wonders how to comport himself at the gym: My first instinct is to say, “Okay, simple. It’s an occasion of sin for you, so even if you’re okay in the locker room, forget the shower or sauna, or even the pool sometimes. Even if that means you have to drive home all sweaty and stink up your car.” But then — motivated probably by equal parts ...